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…My cousin Bill was 4 years younger than me. He was a diver and built like a rock. Like Ms Murphy he was at the height of health. And out of nowhere he just dropped dead.

It struck me particularly, not because we were really close, or the empathy I felt for his parents as any parent does with their child (of any age) dies, but because I have overweight and older. It seemed unreal to me that he would what just dropped dead when I am still alive.

It reminds me of one of the greatest sermons I’ve ever heard, it was at the Latin Mass at Immaculate Conception. The priest went over and over talking about people who suddenly died and stressed the importance of the sacrament of confession. The priest stressed two phrases that have really stuck in me:

We are not promised the next morning.

It is a terrible thing to fall under the judgment of a Just God.

One should not let worry prevent one from living life, but a smart person will keep these two phrases in mind.

After all Ms. Murphy was young, fit and well off, yet she wasn’t promised that next day.

NOTE: As I neared the end of this post I noticed this:

Brittany Murphy’s husband, Simon Monjack, told hospital staff at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center he did not want an autopsy performed on his deceased wife, multiple sources tell TMZ.

We’re told, however, despite Monjack’s wishes, the L.A. County Coroner’s office will perform an autopsy on Murphy. As we first reported, Murphy went into cardiac arrest this morning and could not be revived.

This suggests that there might be more to this than meets the eye. Time will tell. Doesn’t change the main point of the post.

here it is:

My 20-year-old daughter Kennedy now has a big diamond ring on her finger, courtesy of the boy I call the Romeo of the Pampas, the Legendary Latin Lothario, Martin Nestares. (His name is pronounced “mar-TEEN,” although I refuse to do that Spanish thing where his last name is rendered “Nestarrrrrrres.”)

Honestly, he’s a good kid, even if he is planning to go to law school. He’s a Christian boy. Both his grandfathers are ministers. And he is muy respectful. In fact, it was our old-fashioned values — almost as much as our daughter’s lovely red hair and vivacious personality — that made Kennedy so attractive to this chivalrous tango-dancing caballero.

Let me tell you,, politicians, fads, and movements come and go, economics rise and fall, but when it comes down to it a happily married daughter and a house full of grandchildren that you can help pass your wisdom to in your old age while slipping them a few bucks for ice cream. What are the worst political or personal attacks next to that?

Robert Stacy McCain is a lucky and blessed man. My heartfelt congratulations to him and all his family.

A reference page for my friend

Posted: December 17, 2009 by datechguy in catholic, personal
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At game night this week I was informed that a friend of mine who is not religious is considering becoming a Jehovah’s Witness.

I live across the street from 3 generations of Jehovah’s Witness, they are some of the nicest people in the neighborhood and their imminent departure in my opinion is a huge loss to the entire block.

That doesn’t mean to say that theologically they aren’t out there, they ARE, but having the theology right is small comfort if you don’t follow through.

I’m a little torn about it because I know enough about the theology to see the gaping holes, and they have the weakness of all protestant sects in terms of history, origins of the bible and the church fathers. But my friend is not very religious and in the 30 years I’ve known him never has been, maybe he needs to walk before he runs.

But when I asked him about it, and made my own objections to the theology known, he came back with the “Catholic use of Father” business. No offense to my pal but that old chestnut is pretty weak.

So for his benefit I include links here here here and here debunking it but I will only directly quote Fr. Ray Suriani who does the best job of the lot:

“But the real question is: In doing this, did Jesus intend for his words in verse 9 to be understood literally? Or was he speaking in a figurative way? If he did mean them literally, of course, then you’re absolutely correct in your assertion, and we Catholics should stop calling priests ‘Father’ immediately!

“However, it seems to me that if Jesus did intend a literal interpretation, then he certainly would have followed his own rule. That sounds reasonable, does it not? He wouldn’t have given his disciples (and all of us) a commandment—not to call anyone on earth ‘father’—that he didn’t intend to keep himself.

“But you see, when we examine the wider context of this verse (i.e., the rest of the New Testament), what we find is that Jesus did not observe this rule himself! For example, in this very same chapter of Matthew (in verses 30 and 32 to be exact), Jesus uses the word “father” to refer to men here on earth! Speaking to the scribes and Pharisees in verse 30, our Lord says, ‘And say, If we had been in the days of our fathers, we would not have been partakers with them in the blood of the prophets.’ Then, in verse 32, he says, ‘Fill ye up then the measure of your fathers.’

He then points to a few other points in the new testament where this takes place:

“Jesus did the same thing at other times in his ministry: he referred to people on this earth as ‘fathers’. Just read your King James Version and see!

“And so did the writers of the New Testament! St. John, for example, addresses ‘fathers’ more than once in the second chapter of his first letter.

“St. Paul calls Abraham ‘the father of us all’ in chapter 4 of his letter to the Romans. And then, in 1 Corinthians 4, he goes so far as to speak of himself as a father—a spiritual father—to the Corinthian people. Can you imagine? Of course, that makes perfect sense to every Catholic, because St. Paul was a priest! As a priest, he was a spiritual father to all the people in the various churches he founded.

“The bottom line is this: If Jesus intended a literal interpretation to his words, ‘Call no one on earth your father’, and if violating the words of Jesus is a sin, then you’re forced into a position where you have to say that Jesus himself sinned! You also have to say that St. John and St. Paul sinned when they wrote the words of Sacred Scripture.

Bottom line: This is a bogus argument!

My friend is a great guy. I’ve known him since we were about 15. He is a fine fellow and he will be no less fine if he decided to become a Jehovah’s witness. I’m proud to call him my friend today and I’ll be no less proud to so till the day we die!

It wouldn’t surprise me, I haven’t seen much new on the site since my previously posted items. As we can’t go anywhere without getting the ball actually rolling on the project maybe some local action is in order. This post has a few suggestions of things you can do to get things started.

Plan A: Talk to the local Schools

If you want to create a generation of people who appreciate Vets and will do so for years, it is necessary to get people involved at a young age. With the advent of the all volunteer army many kids don’t know serving soldiers and may not have a vet in the family. So how do you remind them of their sacrifices. You use what is already there:

Question: What are the reminders of Veterans that exist in almost every town that everybody sees every day but almost nobody notices?

Answer: Local Monuments to war dead and people who served.

These Monuments are solid resources to remind a community both its history and the Veterans who were are part of it. They are in place and ready to be utilized, the problem is to get them noticed.

Why do so few people actually “notice” them? Many of these monuments are from wars long past (Civil War, World War 1, Spanish American War and Revolutionary) and those more recent wars such as Korea, World War II and Vietnam are either retired or nearing it. Combine that with people moving and re-locating and you have a monument where nobody knows or cares about any name on it.

So here is what I did:

I visited the two high schools in Fitchburg (Fitchburg High and Saint Bernard’s Catholic High School) and met with principal of the former and the headmaster of the latter. I explained the campaign to both of them focusing on the idea of promoting awareness through the history/social studies curriculum. I quickly discovered that when you are dealing with professional educators and sharing ideas, they will come up with improvements and even better ideas when simply from the seeds of good suggestions. Here are a four basic projects we discussed:

#1 Assign students to go to a monument and pick out a name, any name on it. Have him do a paper on that person. Where did he live in town? Why did he join? What locations did he visit and or what Actions was he involved in. If he died how was it noted in the local paper? If he didn’t what did he do when he came home? Does the local paper mention him in any records? Does he still have family in town and does that family know their relative name is engraved in stone on a town square or common?

Transform that stone name into the man he was, a real life person who existed and lived in the very town maybe even the same neighborhood that the student does.

From here you can get creative. Do any old letters or photos exist from or to him. If so perhaps the student can make a facebook or twitter page for them, talking about what he did in his own words.

#2 Go to the yearbooks. If the high school existed by 1930 then odds are most of the men from the classes of 1930-1944 served in some capacity. Let the students go into the yearbooks and do a similar project to what was suggested on those men. Some might still be alive, visit or talk to them. Get that living memory recorded while it can be done.

#3 Trace vets within the student’s own families. Let them do a project within their own family tree. Remember this might, be limited by the number of students whose families have newly or recently come to America.

#4: Schools have a National Honor Society Chapter, as one of their community projects they can visit veterans in nursing homes, get some of that living history recorded or involve themselves in the annual veterans activities that your city or town holds.

I also visited the local College (Fitchburg State College) and talked to the president. He also had an interest and suggested activities could be done though the student life office.

Will this stuff happen? They will talk to their social studies and history departments and then we will see.

Plan B: Talk to your local officials:

My state rep goes to the same church that I do. I brought up the campaign and he seemed interested. I also visited the Mayor’s chief of staff who between our first and 2nd meeting was transferred to the local Veterans office at City Hall. Show them the web sites and discuss the campaign with them. See if they are interested in getting involved on the local level. In addition to being a good cause on it’s own they might also decide that it would be a good cause to add to their political resume.

This is where you, like me, might run into some trouble. Money is tight and there are always many different groups vying for the few dollars available. There might also be larger and more influential groups looking to get the city’s attention. After all there are only so many good causes that can be successfully promoted at once.

This is where my inability to get any kind of response or contact from the national campaign stopped me cold. I was able to get a hearing because I either knew or made myself known to the people involved but that wanted to see evidence of the national organization and my inability to get any kind of response from national to my inquires stood me in poor stead. Maybe you might have better luck but it’s still worth the effort.

Plan C: Attend local veterans ceremonies and functions and talk to the people there

If you can get the local vets or a VFW or an American Legion post interested in the campaign then they will have the gravitas to move things on a local level. Soldiers and vets are a group that often spend a lot of time talking to other people in the “family”. If you outside of that family show an interest it usually generates excitement and interest.

Once your local vets are involved then the local institutions will be much more likely to follow.

Plan D: Check with your historical society and/or museum

With tight budgets an exhibit that consists of artifacts that can be locally acquired and pertain to the city or town in question might be just the type of project they would be interested in. Run it by them and see what they have to say.

Again these are all things you try yourself. If the mother organization can take the time to coordinate said activates on a local level all over individual cities and towns, a really big splash can be made for very small bucks.

If you do want to have a go on the fundraising side then try to sell the mayor’s office on the project. You can suggest a goal of say 1100 families giving $11 dollars citywide and it being presented in both the people’s and the City’s name. That might get some coverage and Mayor’s generally like coverage.

I’d stick more with the awareness part but that your call. Keep in mind $11 given once and forgotten is a tax deduction whose paperwork goes in the trash after a few years, an involved person creates decades of real help for those who have given of themselves to protect and defend our nation.

Either way I assure you that if you do nothing, then nothing will get done. Why not give it a go?