Alex Jensen: …You’re cute. You’re funny. Maybe you’re getting hit on and you don’t even know it.
Leonard Hofstadter: Really?
Alex Jensen: Yep, pretty sure.

The Big Bang Theory The 43 Peculiarity 2012

If there is one thing that constant in the world it’s change.

Everything changes, styles, people, things. Yet some people have the idea that marriage will somehow be different?

Let me give an example: There is an old joke that if a couple puts a nickel in a jar every time they have sex during the 1st two years of marriage and then starts taking one out every time after that 2nd year that jar won’t be empty for many many years.

People’s desires their needs and their sexual drives. While there are no hard and fast rules about this, this is something you need to be prepared for as a couple and make allowances, particularly in situations like tip # 17 Make sure your “escape plan” for a fight doesn’t include going somewhere where you will find yourself anywhere that a person might be expected to be picked up, particularly if said location involves drinking.

Likewise you might have friends of the opposite sex at work but if the sexual situation has changed at home you might want to be a tad more careful how you carry yourself.

And that’s only one type of change, financial situations change, health changes, where you live changes, responsibilities change, where and how you live changes. Some changes might just affect you, others just your spouse, but ALL of these changes, even positive ones are going to affect your relationship and many of them will not be under your control, they just will be.

Being ready willing and able to deal with change will have a huge impact if your marriage is going to last 3 years let alone 30.

It is difficult to pinpoint just when progressive indoctrination began at the college level in this country, it began slowly and under the radar at first.  What is abundantly clear today is that indoctrination has reached levels that are hazardous to our constitutional republic.  You can see just how dangerous the level of indoctrination has become from the Federalist article 4 Reasons Socialism Is More Popular Among Americans Now Than Ever Before

The supporters of socialism are not simply the young, but they’re disproportionately young people who are college-educated. The more college they have, the hotter for socialism they get. According to a 2015 poll, support for socialism grows from 48 percent among those with a high school diploma or less, to 62 percent among college graduates, to 78 percent among those with post-graduate degrees.

Those on the left probably jump immediately to the conclusion that support for socialism is just a natural outgrowth of big brains and elite educations. But there is, in fact, a less obvious but ultimately far more compelling explanation: Something — something bad — is happening at universities to pull students toward the (far) left.

We have already seen above that what’s not happening at even elite universities today is a whole lot of education in important subjects such as history. What we are getting instead is a lot of groupthink and indoctrination. Universities have always skewed a bit left. But beginning in the early to mid 1990s (for reasons I’ve explained in some detail elsewhere), ideological diversity began to vanish entirely, as the leftward deviation turned tidal.

Unfortunately the progressive indoctrination has spread down to high schools and grade schools because progressives infected teaching colleges.  The indoctrination has also been spread down to this level by teacher unions. 

Multiculturalism has always been a vehicle used to spread progressive indoctrination. Here is a particularly ridiculous example I found on Breitbart  Seattle Schools Plan Curriculum to ‘Explore’ Cultural Appropriation of Math.

The Seattle school district is putting into place a K-12 curriculum that encourages students “to explore how math has been ‘appropriated’ by Western culture and used in systems of power and oppression.”

Here is a quote from the Breitbart article that was originally from an article in Education Week

In most places, if schools offer ethnic studies at all, it’s usually in a stand-alone course in high school. But increasingly, schools and districts are starting to sprinkle ethnic studies across the K-12 spectrum. Seattle is taking a highly unusual approach by weaving the field’s multicultural and political questions not just through all grade levels, but into all subjects.

Politically correct revisionist history has been a mainstay of progressive indoctrination.  It is a particularly dangerous one because it is meant to undermine the entire foundation of our constitutional republic.  This Daily Signal article Woke History Is Making Big Inroads in America’s High Schools chronicles the spread of this revisionist history.

Two years ago, the Indiana Legislature mandated that high schools offer an ethnic studies elective. As approved by the state’s Education Department, the class teaches about the contributions of ethnic and racial groups, various cultural practices, as well as such concepts as privilege, systematic oppression, and implicit bias. And now three states—California, Oregon, and Vermont—are trying to create authoritative statewide templates that, advocates hope, will make it easier for schools to adopt ethnic studies.

The statewide California ethnic studies curriculum was proposed in June by an advisory committee, composed of ethnic studies teachers and professors, and met with public outcry that such classes are designed to recruit students into political activism, indoctrinate them with ideological jargon, and promote the pro-Palestinian Boycott, Divestment, Sanctions (BDS) campaign against Israel.

Multiculturalism may seem warm and fuzzy on the surface however it is meant to tear down one particular culture, the culture of the United States.  Here are two great Thomas Sowell Quotes which sum up this sham.

Much of what is promoted as “critical thinking” in our public schools is in fact uncritical negativism towards the history and institutions of America and an uncritical praise of the cultures of foreign countries and domestic minorities.

What “multiculturalism” boils down to is that you can praise any culture in the world except Western culture—and you cannot blame any culture in the world except Western culture.

It will be extremely difficult to turn the tide back on this progressive indoctrination but it is something we must do to save our constitutional republic.  Ending Common Core and all other federal intrusions, while taking local control of K-12 schools, are important steps in the process, along with completely relaxing the iron grip of teacher unions.

My mother always told us that a person gets married to be with someone and she’s was very right. When you are married you are together, through think and through thin, though the tough times and the easy ones.

So it is with various social and other events. In such situations the default position should be to be beside your wife or your husband.

But note this is the DEFAULT position. There are going to be some rare events and occasions, from concerts to visits where one of you might be absolutely delighted to be while the other may be at best indifferent and at worst absolutely disgusted to be there.

As the old saying goes, one bad apple can spoil a whole bunch and one person unhappy and unwilling can ruin the pleasure of a thing that one may have looked forward to for weeks or even months.

If your wife or husband is set on something that you really don’t want to do, or somewhere you really don’t want to go, let them go with friends or other family and enjoy themselves and above all don’t force yourself someplace where you will be a killjoy out of a misplaced sense of duty. Don’t get in the way of a happy day. Do something you like instead. You can hear all about things when they get home.

Contrariwise if you are set on something that you know your spouse doesn’t like or has no interest in, let them stay home or do something else. No amount of you wanting someone to enjoy or be excited by something will make it so. Dragging an unwilling participant with you is a recipe for disappointment. You can share that joy when you get home.

Now again this should be the exception from the default position not the rule but the wise use of this exception will make a lot of difference in the long run.

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Top benefits of bespoke software development

Posted: November 6, 2019 by datechguy in business
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Nowadays, getting a simple software for your organization has become a very hectic problem. Even after spending tons of money on purchasing the off the shelf software, there is no assurance you will get the maximum benefit. Most of the time, the ready-made software fails to comply with different requirements of the companies and eventually operation process becomes much harder. To eliminate this problem, smart developers often offer a unique solution to business owners. They take the requirements of the customers and create unique software from scratch.

Bespoke software development

Bespoke software development refers to the process in which the developers take detailed information about their client business and develop unique software. Though some of you might think the ready-made software is the best solution, in reality, they have huge limitations. In today’s article, we will highlight the top benefits of bespoke software development. Though the concept of custom-tailored software is relatively new, it will be the most popular software solution due to the diversity in our traditional business.

Amazing flexibility

You might buy the most expensive software in the market but there is no assurance you can bring necessary change to the software to meet your business growth. Most of the time, business owners have to source for other software which is a very time consuming and expensive process. But if you start software outsourcing, you have the opportunity to customize the software according to your needs. Just talk to the developers about the things which you need to get it done and they will give you the perfect solution within the shortest possible time.

Associated cost

Most of the people think bespoke software is much more expensive and they eventually opt-in for the ready-made software. But you need to consider the long term associated cost. If you start using the ready-made software it won’t take much time to get frustrated with the limited features of the software. Most importantly, you will be charged for the licensing renewal fees every year. To avoid such problems, many smart investors consider software sourcing as the best solution to cut down the associated cost in the long run. If you do some research, you understand why big organizations have their custom made software event though they can manage expensive software.

Integration and adaptability

If you go for the bespoke software, it can be easily integrated with the other essential elements required to run your business. Most importantly, the developers will do all the hard work so that the software becomes easy to use. If you work with the newly purchased software, then you will have tons of restrictions. Learning, the proper use of such software might become a complicated process. To eliminate this problem you can develop custom software which has fast integration capability and a very user-friendly interface. So training the office staff will be a lot more easily. The developers will give all the necessary training so that the office staff can operate the software with an extreme level of ease.

Security factors

Those who are thinking to use the most popular software available in the market often forget the fact, security is a great issue. The hackers are always trying their best to jeopardize the big software companies by getting access to the sophisticated information of their clients. But this will not be a problem for you if you start using newly developed software. You will be the owner and no one will have access to the source code. The hackers will hardly know such software exists. So, if you are overly concerned with the security factors to make sure you are not using too common software. But does this mean your software will never have any security issues? The obvious is the answer is NO. But if you operate the bespoke software in an organized way and keep the confident login information secret, chances are high you will never run into security problems.

Things to consider

By now you must have known the key reason for which the bespoke software is becoming so popular in today’s world. But you need to carefully select the developers or else you might have to lose a huge sum of money. Make sure you discuss the overall requirements with the developers so that you don’t run into complications during the initial stage. Never keep things in mind since it will limit the capability of your software. But bespoke software shouldn’t be a solution for those who are looking to short term business. If you have long term vision and looking to take your business to the next step, only then you should go for such customized software development.