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Well yeah she says it’s actually: “I quit my job to be a full-time girlfriend: Get fit, cook and you can too” but the reality is this is basically being a kept woman:

Emily de Rean, 37, previously worked as a financial analyst, but now lives off her boyfriend’s money after realizing she was unhappy climbing the corporate ladder.

“You don’t have to just be a stay-at-home mom, you can aspire to be a young child-free woman and not work,” the Dallas beauty declared in an interview with Southwest News Service. “I spend my hours doing what I want and have time to look after my body, cook nice meals and spend quality time with friends.”

Note what she is saying here, don’t become a mother, don’t be a wife, just say fit enough and a man will keep paying your way.

her top tip to becoming a stay-at-home girlfriend is to date a man who can afford to fund that lifestyle.

“There is nothing wrong with a man who wants to be a teacher but if your goal is to be a stay-at-home girlfriend then he’ll never be able to provide for that,” she claimed. “You have to be choosey and only date from pool of men that meet your requirements.

“They need to be financially viable for your needs,” she continued. “You don’t know how a man is going to end up even if he has potential. You should date the finished product.”

All of this is rather hilarious to me because she is forgetting one key point.

In a relationship like this with no commitment nor any family to solidify it means you are expendable. There is always a new crop of 20 somethings who have decades in front of them who can replace you and the law of diminishing returns combined with the natural aging process means you have to work twice as hard to try to maintain yourself to the standard he has become accustomed to.

It reminds of an old class get together a decade ago. There were three woman who in high school would have been considered out of my league sitting with me and my wife (also from the same class). The were complaining that they couldn’t meet a man to their standard and got upset when a classmate came in with a woman 20 years younger.

All of this is transitory. And eventually she will find herself discarded and alone, no kids, no family just another 40 or 50 something woman whose biological alarm has rung it’s final chime

Of course she may find a rich 70 something man who would rather have a compliant 50 something with experience than a 20 something who doesn’t but the supply of 50 something women who are alone is likely vastly greater than the supply of 70 something rich men looking for one.

May she be happy in the life she has chosen but I wouldn’t advise you to follow it.

Via Sarah Hoyt at Insty who notes

Listen to the advice of someone who has read a lot of historical biographies: before you give up the day job, make sure you have a ring and a license. Or at least a contract. Not only didn’t you invent this, your reinvention of the wheel is square.